She’s just not that into you

Ladies, what if all our complicated relationship problems that have caused countless bowls of ice cream and sleepless nights could be solved with six simple words?

According to a recent best-seller, they can.

He’s Just Not That Into You, made its debut on “The Oprah Winfrey Show” last month, and has now become a national sensation among single women and confused girlfriends everywhere.

Co-authors Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo wrote this handy “no-excuses truth to understanding guys” guide to urge women to stop wasting their precious time making excuses for various flaws of the male species.

I don’t have the time or energy to get into those right now, so I will get to the biggest mistake that we lovely ladies continue to make: excuses, excuses, excuses.

This little word doesn’t sound so bad, but in the dictionary of dating, it should be considered a four-letter-word.

If your guy is making the excuses as to why he doesn’t call, shame on him. But honey, if you’re the one sitting by the silent phone coming up with the most ludicrous reasons why it’s not ringing, shame on you.

Any of these justifications sound familiar? “He’s really busy,” “he’s afraid of getting hurt again,” “he’s intimidated by me,” and my personal favorite, “maybe his cell phone died and he can’t get my number.”

We all know we do it, but seriously, what’s the point? There is none. Making excuses only makes us look foolish.

Women are intelligent creatures, but the funny thing is, so many of us aren’t able to see the obvious: “He’s just not that into you.”

I know it sounds harsh, but the truth hurts, baby. Accept it and move on. It really is that simple. (I wish this book was published last year!)

Once you are brave enough to face the bittersweet truth, the ball will be in your court of this crazy little game called love.

I know the giddy feeling girls get when they hear the catchy ring-tone of their cell phones chirping, and see that wonderful, exciting and perfect name appear on the screen.

Yea, it’s fun and all. But think of the feeling when you finally could care less whether or not his cell phone broke or he called you from Margarita Ranch wondering where you were.

It’s that liberating and empowering feeling that makes you feel, well, like a guy.

Now, I’m not saying that we all need to start acting like hedonistic animals and only call guys when we are leaving the bar, and feel like “watching a movie” at 2 a.m.

What I am saying is that it is long overdue for women to start acting more like men when it comes to relationships.

All we have to do is just follow the basic qualities of men that we’re familiar with: no strong attachment, no desire for commitment and no deep emotion.

The days of women being restricted to cooking, cleaning and raising children are over. The glass ceiling has broken, and more and more women are becoming executives, business owners and CEO’s.

So then, what’s stopping women from advancing in the relationship world?

Clearly there are a number of reasons, but whatever they may be, there are no excuses as to why women can’t “wear the pants” in their many uncertain relationships.

In the brilliant words of “Sex and the City’s” Carrie Bradshaw, women should “take the best of the opposite sex and make it (their) own.” As in borrowing that care-free spirit that so many guys have, and pairing it with our own marvelous qualities that make us who we are.

We can’t let guys have all the fun. Remember, we are in college too. Girls, after graduation, you won’t want your memories to be of waiting by the phone and checking away messages. Instead, you will want to think of the times you put on your sexiest outfit, danced your heart out to your favorite 80’s song and never thought twice about some guy.

The next time I walk in Barnes and Noble, I want to look at the best-seller list and see the book titled, She’s Just Not That Into You.

If orange can be the new pink in the fashion industry, then certainly women can be the new men in the relationship world.

Annalise Ghiz is a sophomore journalism major. She may be contacted at [email protected].