Q: Dear Stacy,
Would girls prefer us guys to be shaved, managed or wild like a caveman?
– Kevin
A: Dear Kevin,
While no woman wants to visit the jungle, you’d be surprised to know the results are mixed. The idealistic man would be bald and as smooth as a fresh piece of leather. This, however, is obviously never going to happen, since most men wouldn’t let a little hot wax come anywhere near their penises. Some women prefer that men avoid shaving, for the hair flirts with their noses. Some women, similar to the French, like their partners au naturel and have no qualms with the jungle.
In all fairness, I think there is a larger issue here: equality. If women are expected to upkeep their rain forest, why shouldn’t men? Most men will be quick to say, “Ew! No way in hell I am going to go there until you take care of that.” So, we do what we must out of frustration. But, men should be held to the same standard. It’s no picnic for women. As a general rule, treat your jungle like your car. Maintain the upkeep of it by clipping or whatever floats your boat so that we don’t get lost in the jungle.
Q: Dear Stacy,
How available should you be when dating a new guy? Should you not answer the phone sometimes, play the game or let guys chase us? Should we be coy and unavailable?
– Lynne
A: Dear Lynne,
Oh, the games that people play – when dating a new guy, or girl, for that matter, try your absolute best NOT to play games. Games are a safety complex for insecure and immature people. They’re particularly designed for those who are in middle and high school. Aren’t you hoping he calls you to ask you out? And, since you want him to do so, why in the world would you avoid his call? Women wish guys would act the way they want, but when guys do, women are shocked and respond by running circles around them. “Go fish – haha, sucker! You lose!” Well, don’t make a wish if you don’t want it to come true.
Ask yourself why you want to come off as unavailable. What are you so afraid of? Looking desperate? Maintaining the upper hand? Girls that set guys up for a high energy chase or the never-ending game of Dating “Monopoly” will find themselves asking why the guy eventually gave up when he stops pursuing her. Guys will lose the will to pass “Go” if you never let them near “Park Place.” And you’ll be left all alone in jail, waiting to be rescued right where you began. Don’t play games. Be mature about it and take his call if you like him. He’s going to respect you for not jerking him around like a dog on a leash.
Q: Dear Stacy,
My girlfriend wants to see a gynecologist for the first time. Should I be nervous?
– Michael
A: Dear Michael,
It’s very endearing that you are nervous for both you and your girlfriend, but I’m curious to know why you’re nervous. Unless the two of you have been engaging in unprotected sex and you have something to hide, you shouldn’t be shaking in your seersucker britches.
The best thing you can do for your girlfriend is to reassure her that it’s necessary for her to go, especially if you’re sexually active, and that it won’t be as dreadful as she’s probably imagining. All women 18 and over or sexually active should see a gynecologist for a yearly pelvic exam. Experts say the best time to make an appointment is one week after your period. The gynecologist will check to make sure she’s healthy and doesn’t have any potential signs of breast cancer or STDs. If your girlfriend is experiencing anything out of the norm, make sure she sees a gynecologist. These irregularities can indicate an infection or STD and affect her fertility for the future.
It’s always a good idea to get yourself checked. Even if your partner claims you were his first, get tested and make sure you’re taking care of yourself.
Stacy Seebode is a senior journalism major. She may be reached at [email protected]
