Single Guy
For those of you who don’t know what gold digging is, it’s the act of dating or associating with someone for his money.
Rather than choosing to like someone for whom he is on the inside, gold diggers are infatuated with pocketbooks and the size of a person’s bank account.
It seems that in today’s dating world people are more concerned with finding someone to satisfy themselves financially rather than finding someone with their dignity intact.
Everyone has different dating standards that are worth respecting. We do, after all, have the right to have our basic needs fulfilled.
Most of our parents would go ballistic if they found out we were dating a high-school dropout who flipped burgers and lived in a trailer park. Not only do they expect more for us, but we too expect more.
But when someone is sought after strictly because of what he drives, who his father is, or how many vacations he takes a year, something is wrong.
Money shouldn’t be the determining factor in choosing a mate. Finding someone with a good sense of humor, an interesting personality and a sense of self-respect is worth more than a beach house in the Bahamas, a private jet and a winter home in Aspen.
Gold digging has been encouraged by such television shows as “How to Marry a Millionaire” and “The Anna Nicole Show.” Both of these shows exemplify just how much people will do for money. After all, our society as a whole is infatuated with money.
For a guy to use his money as a means to try to get a wife, much less a date, should be disconcerting to either sex.
Anna Nicole, as we all know, is a professional gold digger. Hopefully, no one believes that she married an 80-something-year-old, multi-millionaire because he had a heart of gold. That’s gold digging at its finest, and it’s not worth anyone’s time.
It’s easy to get caught up in gold digging when the person sought after has more to offer than what you are accustomed too. I was attracted to a girl, not for her money, but basically for the view from her downtown loft.
Somehow the view from her room made her look a lot better. However, after five months I realized that we didn’t have as much in common as I had originally thought, and I decided to stop with the charade and give up the view. I figured at least I had gotten some sunrises and sunsets out of the relationship.
Gold digging is like any other temptation. Once you partake in it, it becomes addictive. For some it’s definitely the drug of choice. Like most other drugs, gold digging will leave you down and out when you need it most. Unfortunately, there are no rehab clinics for gold diggers.
After breaking it off with my view of the city, I immediately felt a void. Not only from leaving her, but now I had to come back to my lowly dorm room and my stimulating view of the South Quad. Skyscrapers for smokers, not the tradeoff I was hoping for.
Thankfully, most people I know think gold digging is “just wrong,” as someone put it. Not only is it wrong, it’s shallow. Sadly, there are those out there who see gold digging as a means of escaping the simple life. What they don’t realize is that a simple life is often underrated.
More money, more problems is pretty much how it goes. That’s become evident to me by managing my own bank account.
Sure, we all want enough money to get us all we need and desire, but I would rather earn it myself than ride someone’s coattails to the cash register.
Of course, spending someone else’s money is 10 times easier than spending your own. The only catch is that when you spend someone else’s money he expects something in return whether it is labor or other favors.
There’s always a tradeoff. Gold diggers fail to see this.
It’s up to you to decide what you’re looking for as far as dating goes. Hopefully, you know the importance of choosing someone who makes the most of what they have.
Also, it’s important to pick someone with actual qualities rather than actual quantities. Your money can’t buy you dignity and neither can someone else’s.
