Q: Dear Stacy,

My guy friend and this girl have been “talking” lately. Both of them just got out of long-term relationships and are newly single. They both agree that the chemistry is there but don’t know if they’re comfortable jumping into a new relationship. What should I tell him?


—Adam

A: Dear Adam,

Tell your friend that it’s normal to feel apprehensive about dating new people after long relationships. Most likely, they both fear that there’s a good possibility of the troubles and baggage from the last relationships seeping into the new one. It’s very easy to carry these issues over as well as your expectations. A lot of times people move on, but they never explore the reasons why they need to, such as communication issues. It’s easier to blame someone else for what might have been your dilemma. For example, maybe your friend had difficulty discussing the way he felt about certain things like jealousy to his past girlfriend, and ended the relationship never having overcome his own obstacle. He will probably bring his battle with jealousy into his next relationship.

Suggest that your friend and his new love interest take things slowly. People often fail to become friends before they jump into dating and wind up disappointed later. Reassure him that he has time and that he needs to take a good look at what might have failed in his last relationship. He can then apply his discoveries to the potential new relationship. And, remind him that he’s single now . . . enjoy it while you can. Take time to hang with your buddies and do what you didn’t get to when you were tied up.

Q: Dear Stacy,

How do you tell a guy that is interested in you that you’re starting to see someone else? What if two guys like you, and you want both to pursue you . . . but you’re starting to date one more seriously then the other? —Katie

A: Dear Katie,

While both situations may seem perplexing at first, it’s really quite simple: “The truth will set you free.” Tell the guy you’re not dating seriously and the one that’s interested in you what the deal is. As insane as it may sound, men appreciate the truth over some ugly and embellished lie.

Now, don’t make the mistake of being blunt: “Well, Bill, I’m kind of seeing this other guy and well, he’s way hotter and funnier than you. I’m sorry. I hope we can be friends.” Due to the obvious blow to a man’s ego, he may not want to be your friend for a while; but eventually, both will get over it and come around.

It sounds as though you may not even be sure of which guy you want. Step back and weigh your options. Then proceed to move forward. Make sure you’re not just in it for the chase too, for that can come back and bite you in the butt. Darn that karma.

Q: Dear Stacy,

What is a camel toe?

̢۬ РChad

A: Dear Chad,

Oddly enough, it’s not an actual camel’s toe. Who would’ve thunk it?! As if this isn’t awkward and vivid enough for you . . . Imagine a girl in spandex that has a frontal wedgie. Enough said. For more information, consult your local chapter of horny boys.

Stacy Seebode is a senior journalism and dance major. She can be reached at [email protected].